Keeping Short Accounts

August 19, 2009 at 11:38 am (Scripture References)

I was responding to Danielle’s blog,, about marriage.  One of the important tools to a happy marriage and a happy life is to keep short accounts, with both the people you interact with, and with God.  

Anger, bitterness, and sin are like festering wounds.  Wounds, if not treated, get infected, hurt and begin to smell – a putrid scent.  Then they leave a scar…

 Anger is not always sin, but unresolved anger becomes bitterness, which then is sin.  How can we keep anger from becoming sin?  By not responding in kind and forgiving immediately.

  •  “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” Proverbs 15:1
  • {{Love}}” is not easily angered, it keeps no records of wrong.”  1 Corinthians 13:5
  • “Hatred stirs up dissension, but love covers over all wrongs.”  Proverbs 10:12
  • “Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.”  James 1:19

 If we have allowed anger to fester, unresolved, how do we overcome the bitterness?  By recognizing that bitterness hurts no one but ourselves and “behave” our way to peace.

  •  “Make every effort to live in peace with all men and to be holy.  See to it that no one misses the Grace of God and that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble.”  Hebrews 12:14,15
  • “The end of all things is near.  Therefore, be clear-minded and self-controlled so that you  can pray.  Above all, love each other deeply because love covers a multitude of sins.”  1 Peter 4:7,8
  • “Do not repay anyone evil for evil.  Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everybody.  If it is possible, as far as it depends on YOU, live at peace with everyone.”  Romans 12:17-18

Part of the “active” process of behaving our way to peace, is to forgive.

  •  “Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ, God forgave you.”  Ephesians 4:32

God left us some great examples of forgiveness.

  • “Jesus said, ‘Father, forgive them for they do not know what they are doing.’”  Luke 23:34
  • “But you are a forgiving God – gracious and compassionate, slow to anger and abounding in love.”  Nehemiah 9:17b
  • “The Lord, the Lord, is a compassionate and gracious God, slow to anger, abounding in love.”  Exodus 34:6

 Forgiving IMMEDIATELY keeps our account short before God and with all men.  If we do not forgive, we cannot pray.

  • “Whatever you ask for in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours.  And when you stand praying, if you hold anything against anyone, forgive him.”  Mark 11:24-25
  • “In your anger – do not sin; do not let the sun go down while you are angry.”  Ephesians 4:26.

This process is not easy, but I promise you that it is doable.  My wish for you is that it doesn’t take you 50 years to learn this valuable lesson. 🙂


1 Comment

  1. Danielle said,

    All of this is great, Melody! Forgiveness is so huge! And God calls us to forgive whether we’ve been asked by the person who wronged to forgive them or not! Good thing we’ve got the Holy Spirit in us giving us the grace to do so, because it can be so hard sometimes.

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