The Mother of The Bride Dress that Wasn’t

April 14, 2012 at 1:36 pm (Mother Of The Bride Dress, Sewing Projects)

Most of you who follow my blog have read along with me as I worked on my MofB dress for March 24th, 2012 — the day  my daughter, Amanda was marrying Hengyi.

I started the dress in plenty of time, fit a muslin to my 52-year-old frame and cut out the fashion fabric and began to work on it.  I put love into every stitch because, after all, it was for my sweet child’s wedding.  I put the body of the dress together, choosing to make a “skin” instead of a lining for the dress.  That would allow me to alter it without any problems.

The body of the dress

I then turned my attention to the sleeve detail — I worked one full day on the sleeves.

Sculptured sleeve detail

I then attached the sleeves to the dress

Sleeves attached to the dress

…then the problems started…  Because of many reasons, the details of which I won’t bore you with, I gained 20 pounds in 6 weeks.  As you can see from the dress, it is fitted.  The front of the dress is just one piece, with no seams to let out.  I tried and tried and tried to get the dress to fit me — remember, the muslin fitted beautifully!  It was a hopeless case.  Finally, at 2 a.m. the Wednesday before the wedding, I had to recognize fully that this beautiful dress was NOT going to fit me on March 24th.  I wept.  I was so tired — I had tried so many different things to get this dress to fit.  In fact, I basically ruined the front piece just trying to get it to fit over my girth.

My darling DannyO hugged me and reassured me that I would find a dress.  On Wednesday morning, after four hours of sleep, I began my search.  I walked through store after store, all the while asking the Lord to please guide me to my dress.  (I really believe the the Lord cares about the little things in life).  At 4:00 p.m., I walked into Boscovs in Altoona, exhausted and weepy (yes, I sniffled through much of the day).  I spied a pink (my favorite color) skirt attached to a black bodice.  It pulled me, like a magnet.  It was a Petite.  I am 5’5 1/2″ — not petite, but I was compelled to try it on.  DannyO had already told me to NOT look at any price tags, so I didn’t.  I tried it on.  It fit!  Because it was petite, the length was actually perfect!  It had a 50’s vibe and I decided that was the dress…  Here is my dress 🙂

My son, Brent escorting me down the aisle

I actually threw the purple dress into the garbage at 2:00 a.m. but rescued it later on Wednesday.  I will hopefully finish it and wear it for another important event in my life.  There is much love in that dress — I couldn’t just discard it!

I will post pictures of Amanda’s wedding at a later date, but wanted you to hear the story of my Mother of the Bride Dress that wasn’t!!



  1. rwinkirk6 said,

    By all means keep the first dress… As you say, it could be the base of something exciting in teh future! :-))

  2. Esther said,

    Love the dress you found! It was perfect and you did not have to worry a bit that it was too tight and you couldn’t sit down. Or heaven help you something give on such an important day!!

  3. Theresa in Mérida said,

    Both dresses are awsome, you are gorgeous in the pink and black dress. It’s too bad you couldn’t wear the dress you made. It is incrediable the details are fantastic, you can always wear it to your high school reunion and make everyone faint with envy!

  4. sewweezee said,

    52? More like 18!

  5. CostumeDeeva said,

    I’m so glad you didn’t leave it to the trash… the sleeve detailing is wonderful. Such effort and beauty deserves another shot, and another shot, and another if need be. In the words of Tim Gunn, ‘Make it work!’ And judging by your other achievements, I’m sure you will.

  6. sewinglikemygrandmotherdid said,

    Love the first and second dress. But I thought you were the bride, you look so young. What is your secret?

  7. sewinglikemygrandmotherdid said,

    Love the first and second dress. My goodness you look so young to have a son getting married. What is your secret?

  8. Gail Mace said,

    I loved both dresses, but I think you chose the right one…and I do believe with all my heart God cares about the little things. I needed a particular outfit one Easter and I set on a bench in the mall crying out to the Lord, I lifted up my head and there it was…..right in front of my eyes.

  9. briana said,

    You look lovely in the one God chose for you. And, I hope one day you’ll get to wear the purple dress, too, because it is stunning. Amazed by your handiwork (and God’s…because, like you said, He indeed does care about the ‘small’ stuff.)

  10. Finally Finished!! | Melodyejoy's Weblog said,

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